Coming out to family and friends is a deeply emotional and most of often than not, a nerve-wracking experience for all LGBTQ people.

So when a gay guy came out to his mother in Mississippi last week, she didn’t want to have a reaction that would affect him in a negative way.

But what do you do when you have no LGBTQ people to turn to for advice?

Well, this mother decided to call up Mississippi gay bar Sipps in Gulfport to ask for suggestions on what she should say to her son.

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Kara Cowley was the bartender who picked up the phone that evening, and this is what she said:

Me: Good evening. Thank you for calling Sipps!

Lady on phone: Is this a gay bar?

Me: Well, we are an everybody bar, but yes mostly gay.

Lady: Can I ask you a…?

Me: Sure.

Lady: Are you Gay?


Lady: What was the one thing you wanted from your parents when you came out?

Me: Umm….

Lady: My son just came out to me and I don’t want to say anything that may mess him up in the head.

Me: Well I think that you should just make sure he knows that you love and accept…. Wait, do you accept it?

Lady: Well umm yes, if that’s what he wants.

Me: You should definitely let him know that you love and accept him! I think everything will be OK from there!

Lady: OK, well, thank you.

Me: You are very welcome and good luck!

Kara posted the conversation on Facebook and was immediately inundated with support for her fantastic answer.

“This is called progress. When a mother doesn’t know how to react, she asks for advice,” one commenter said. “And that isn’t just good motherhood, that is a sign that the fight for equality is only becoming closer and closer to being over.”

Another added: “Before my Bubba came out, I had known since we were kids he was gay. I didn’t care because that was who he was. I’m so thankful to see someone called for advice and you handled it beautifully!”

Bravo, Kara!