Demi Lovato and legendary actress Jane Fonda discussed the obstacles Lovato face in their non-binary journey.
Sitting down for Greenpeace’s Fire Drill Fridays, Lovato told Fonda that the reason they “held back” from coming out was due to the “patriarchy”.
“If I had listened to the patriarchy, my life would have never changed. My gender, my pronouns would have never changed,” Lovato explained.
“I realised… after years of living my life for other people, trying to make myself smaller for the patriarchy because they run the industry, they are at the centre of everything.
“When I realised that, I thought, ‘What are the ways that the patriarchy has been holding me back?’ And for me, it was putting me in a box, telling [me], ‘You are a female, this is what you’re supposed to do, don’t dream bigger and don’t speak louder.'”
Lovato went on to say that their 2018 drug overdose pushed them to live their truth and life to the fullest.
“When I stripped myself of the norms that society has pushed on me, specifically by the patriarchy, I have become the most complete and authentic version of myself… and I couldn’t be happier,” they concluded.
On Wednesday (19 May), the Sorry Not Sorry singer shared a video announcing their gender identity.
“I will be officially changing my pronouns to them/them. I feel this best represents the fluidity in my gender expression,” the singer said.
Lovato went on to upload a follow-up post in which they expressed the liberation they felt since the announcement.
“Today is a day I’m so happy to share more of my life with you all – I am proud to let you know that I identify as non-binary & will officially be changing my pronouns to they/them moving forward,” they wrote.
“Not only has my life been a journey for myself. I was also living for those on the other side of the cameras.”
Watch the full Greenpeace Fire Drill Friday interview below.