Editor's Letter

GT LETTER 430

Let’s talk about sex, baby. Let’s talk about you and me. Well, let’s not as we’ll be here all day and there’s a magazine to be read. But while I’ve got you, we can certainly talk about sex. More importantly, how people get sex these days. How sex is consumed, if you will. If you’re my sort of age (mid 30s, thanks, we’ll leave it at that) or older, you’ll probably agree that everything’s changed. Sex is, let’s be honest, easy to get. It might not be with the person you want, but it’s there. And that’s reflected in the biggest ever sex survey that we’ve done. It makes for fascinating reading.

If you’re younger than me, this sexual playing field may be all you’ve ever known – it may be that you can’t imagine life without an app that can hook you up immediately. I find it fascinating hearing straight people talking about Tinder as though it’s some kind of sexual liberation, when gay people have had their version for years (happy fifth birthday, Grindr!)

I also find the way gay men respond to ‘dating’ apps fascinating. “I’ve deleted Grindr and Scruff!” people will declare on Twitter. No-one cares. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with using these apps, as long as you’re playing safe and not cheating on anyone. It’s just what people DO these days. Stop giving a damn about what anyone else may think. It doesn’t make you ‘better’ or ‘worse’ for not having them, just get on with it. Unless, of course, you’re one of those awful people that goes onto these apps to be rude to people, screenshot conversations and post them online with some kind of ‘superiority’. Be nice, we’re all there for the same reason. Talk about sex, baby.

Darren Scott
@darrenscott