GT DATE: Make him laugh
We've seen it a hundred times in traditional dating ads: "GSOH" - Good Sense of Humour.
In a recent survey among GTDATE members, it seems that the ability to make a guy laugh comes top of the list when we look for the man of our dreams. 89% of guys we surveyed said that a Good Sense of Humour is the most attractive quality in a man - and despite popular belief, this comes way ahead of good looks. Whilst still important, only 68% of the men we surveyed said that looks is important. These statistics is followed closely by intelligence (49%) and non-smokers (45%).
So what constitutes this 'holy grail' of a 'good sense of humour'?
A GSOH is defined in the dictionary as the capacity to understand humour, satire and banter that anyone might be inclined to throw at you. It's also the ability to tell a joke well enough, that it entertain listeners. And finally people who experience all of the above without taking themselves too seriously in a process have a great sense of humour. But surely this is all subjective?
There are some people that can find the funny side of things that ordinary people don't see. Humour is also cultural - us Brits are known for our sarcasm and wit - but often this doesn't wash with our European counterparts, sometimes causing confusion or occasionally, offense. Then there are some people who will laugh at anything and there are others who don't at all.
So how can one be funny and make a good impression? Well, here's a little guide:
TRUST THAT YOU ARE FUNNY
Being funny doesn't come in "one-size-fits-all"; what makes you funny is unique to you and the way you observe the world. Focus first on what you find funny in life and learn from your own reactions to the things that make you laugh. Everyone has a funny bone - as babies, we laugh from when we're 4 months old - so it's already in you, you just need to find it.
LEARN A LITTLE ABOUT WHAT IS FUNNY
Laughter is generally the desired result of anyone seeking to be funny, and usually this is because we view laughter as a sign of happiness or tension release. Laughter itself is unconscious – while it is possible for us to inhibit our laughter consciously (although not always successfully!), it is very hard for us to produce laughter on demand
WORK ON IT
As good comedians already know, being funny boils down to good timing and taking the best advantage of the context. And you need to practice - and be ready to laugh at yourself when no one laughs at your attempts.
While knowing a lot can increase your capacity for humour, there's no substitute for SEEING a lot. Look at the humour in everyday things.
DON'T TAKE YOURSELF SO SERIOUSLY
Remember the most embarrassing moments in your life so far, the monumental stuff-ups - the things in the past that make you a better person. See what was funny about these moments and how you can share the funny side of it with others. Being able to laugh at yourself in a healthy way is good for you. It shows that you're human.
LEARN FROM FUNNY PEOPLE
Whether they're professional comedians, your parents, your friends - learning from the funny people in your life is a key step to being funny yourself.
KNOW WHEN NOT TO BE FUNNY
Some people don't know when to stop - stay within acceptable limits!
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